Transitional Housing - Primera Vivienda
The Transitional Housing Project will be focused on fulfilling the needs of the victims of domestic violence and their children.
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
How many of the following attitudes and behaviors are present in your relationship?
- Communication is open and spontaneous.
- Rules/boundaries are clean and explicit, yet allow flexibility.
- Individuality, freedom and personal identity is enhanced.
- Each enjoys doing things for self, as well as for each other.
- Play, humor, and having fun together is common place.
- Each does not attempt to "fix" or control the other.
- Acceptance of self and other (for real selves).
- Assertiveness: feelings and needs are expressed.
- Humility: able to let go of need to "be right."
- Self-confidence and security in won worth.
- Conflict is faced directly and resolved.
- Openness to constructive feedback.
- Each is trustful of the other.
- Balance of giving and receiving.
- Negotiations are fair and democratic.
- Tolerance: forgiveness of self and other.
- Mistakes are accepted and learned from.
- Willingness to take risks and be vulnerable.
- Other meaningful relationships and interests exist.
- Each can enjoy being alone and privacy is respected.
- Personal growth, change and exploration are encouraged.
- Continuity and consistency are present in the commitment.
- Balance of oneness (closeness) and separation from each other.
- Responsibility for own behaviors and happiness (not blaming other).
Characteristics of an Unhealthy Family
- Members are not respected as unique individuals of equal value with other family members.
- Family members are discouraged from being unique or different from others in the family. Conformity is often required.
- Parents do not follow through and are inconsistent. They are not good role models.
- Family members are denied their individual feelings, perceptions, and needs.
- When problems develop, they are kept secret, and the member with the problem is shamed into silence.
- Family members need to unmet in the family. Asking for favors or to have needs met is discouraged.
- Family roles are frigid and inflexible.
- Mistakes are severely criticized. Family members are always expected to be "right" or "perfect."
- The Family is overly open in members' internal interactions and overly closed in the outside world.
- The family inconsistently supports individual members; however, individual support of the family is always expected.
- Parents are infallible and all-powerful. They teach their children that they are always in control and are not to be questioned or challenged. Children do not have the right to an opinion.